June 13, 2014
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Unresolved Conflict - Been lied to
Consider times that there are conflict, that you did not feel you trusted someone, or you avoided someone/something or acquiesced.
What I observe:
-A person lied to me
What is the impact:
-I feel disheartened, confused, furious, alarmed, Pessimistic
What I assume:
-They can’t be trusted ever again, especially with my emotions
My part in this:
-I have done things that this person considered untrustworthy
That I don't have a full understanding of this person's thoughts or reasons for doing this
-I have not told the person that being honest is important to maintain the relationship
The change I would like to see:
-The person was honest and upfront about the actions that were lied about and future actions are not hidden and lied about
-That I could express my dismay over being lied to - taking a stand for what I want/need/what is true for me instead of keeping things surfacy to hold the friendship together
-For me to get clarity around what is holding this friendship together having been lied to
